We were out at the mall a couple of weeks ago and as I was walking through a discount clothing store, these little dresses caught my eye. I originally saw the Dormouse sized one and walked over to see how much it cost to have a cute little 4th of July dress for the summer. $9.00 - score! So I picked it up and right behind it was a Caterpillar sized similar dress - also $9.00. I grabbed that too and started toward the checkout. While walking up there we realized that the larger of the dresses came with a doll-sized dress attached to it, which pleased The Dormouse to no end.
The next day we had a graduation party to attend and since it was an outdoor barbecue, I had promised The Dormouse the night before that she could wear her new dress and bring her doll, wearing the dress as well. And, what the hell, we put The Caterpillar in hers too. So we all strolled into the barbecue and one of the other women I know from church who has similar aged kids, commented on them. I kind of shrugged it off a bit because I'm not all that into matching outfits for siblings, twins, or Sadie Hawkins dances. I just bought them because they were cheap.
"Oh they're very cute," she said.
"Thanks," said I. *heaping another spoonful of ketchup on my hotdog*
"My girls beg me for those American Girl matching doll things all the time but I never give in to that ridiculousness."
"Um... Huh?" stammers I.
"Oh you know, they're just so expensive and unnecessary."
Me sheepishly: "American Girl? I don't really know what that is, I just bought these at TJ Maxx for nine bucks. Hey, when are those hot dogs going to be ready? I think I'll get another one." *makes quick exit to get out of uncomfortable conversation*
This is why I don't do playgroups, people.
I was talking to my neighbor later and apparently, American Girl is a big phenomenon and you can purchase not only a doll that looks just like your kid, but also matching clothing. Her grandkids are big into it. Who knew? I've only heard of it in passing and never knew the extent of the paraphernalia to buy until she showed me a catalog her granddaughter left the last time she was visiting.
But my question here is this: Was this woman trying to insult my choice of indulgences for my daughter or was she just tactless and should I decide not to be offended?
The next day we had a graduation party to attend and since it was an outdoor barbecue, I had promised The Dormouse the night before that she could wear her new dress and bring her doll, wearing the dress as well. And, what the hell, we put The Caterpillar in hers too. So we all strolled into the barbecue and one of the other women I know from church who has similar aged kids, commented on them. I kind of shrugged it off a bit because I'm not all that into matching outfits for siblings, twins, or Sadie Hawkins dances. I just bought them because they were cheap.
"Oh they're very cute," she said.
"Thanks," said I. *heaping another spoonful of ketchup on my hotdog*
"My girls beg me for those American Girl matching doll things all the time but I never give in to that ridiculousness."
"Um... Huh?" stammers I.
"Oh you know, they're just so expensive and unnecessary."
Me sheepishly: "American Girl? I don't really know what that is, I just bought these at TJ Maxx for nine bucks. Hey, when are those hot dogs going to be ready? I think I'll get another one." *makes quick exit to get out of uncomfortable conversation*
This is why I don't do playgroups, people.
I was talking to my neighbor later and apparently, American Girl is a big phenomenon and you can purchase not only a doll that looks just like your kid, but also matching clothing. Her grandkids are big into it. Who knew? I've only heard of it in passing and never knew the extent of the paraphernalia to buy until she showed me a catalog her granddaughter left the last time she was visiting.
But my question here is this: Was this woman trying to insult my choice of indulgences for my daughter or was she just tactless and should I decide not to be offended?
Now if they only had one in a size 16.
Maybe it's better this way.
Because I would totally buy one for me AND The KingofHearts and we would all wear them to church next week and sit in front of her.
By the way, The Dormouse was very offended that her dress did not come with the blue bow on the left shoulder. She feels she's being discriminated against for being too big. So now I've gotta go fabric store hunting to find some material and make her one. So maybe there was something to the "ridiculousness".
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June 9, 2008 at 10:59 AM
You don't know about American Girl dolls!?! Just wait a few years. Lindsay likes the historical dolls, her favorite is Felicity. Every month she goes to Barnes & Noble where they get together, each girl bringing her American Girl doll, and talk about the girl of the month. There are stories, clothes, furniture accessories, you name it. And all for only $100 each! The other night, instead of a story for bedtime, Lindsay had me read the American Girl doll catalog to her.
As for the woman commenting on the dresses, I say, when in doubt, choose to be offended!
June 9, 2008 at 11:03 AM
We have just started with the American Girl hoopla. Madison has been "working" at grandma's to save money to buy one.
June 9, 2008 at 11:35 AM
LOL. Stupid, tactless people! Do other churches have as many members with such an appalling lack of manners? I suppose they must.
June 9, 2008 at 11:50 AM
LOL. I totally agree, Scott.
June 9, 2008 at 6:11 PM
ROFLMAO! Oh, tears. Tears. I have tears. Breathe.... Oh, too, too funny! I would immediately remit years of unpaid tithing to see the five of you in matching dresses. I might even start going to church again, just for that! Seriously hilarious! Thank you for a good laugh.
As for the woman in your ward, it's hard to tell with some members whether they're being serious, passive-aggressive, or just plain thoughtless. I'm going with the latter.
Note to PAWS: I don't think so. I think this church totally has the corner market on stupid and tactless remarks. See? Case in point: me and my stupid, tactless remark. Although, I'm inactive, so it doesn't count. Right? No. Hm.
June 10, 2008 at 12:13 AM
dc - I guess that just shows that you're a member at heart. ;)
September 12, 2008 at 9:44 PM
Hmm, I read it twice.
I think she's just jealous that you had BOTH girls and the doll dresses!