In The Dormouse's continuing efforts to deal with having a new baby in the house, but not actually being that baby's mother, may I present:
Now let me say, I'm pretty liberal about the whole breastfeeding thing. I'm not a particularly modest person and I don't really care who sees my bosom when there's a baby attached to it. It's not like I haven't seen more loblollies watching the Grammy awards in prime time TV. So I don't get the whole whoa, we don't expose our gazongas in this society attitude.
But I'm not all "Hey I'm canceling my Facebook account" either. (Mostly because I am a geezer and do not have a Facebook account, but you get my point.) I get that it makes some people uncomfortable and they don't want to see other people's yabbos and I think that's okay too. Hence, I do try to use a little bit of judgment and not be all flagrantly whipping out the one-eyed monster with no warning.
I guess having The Caterpillar at work with me (and The Dormouse before her) has made me more sensitive to how others may be uncomfortable around La Leche types who unholster the howitzers without a thought. I have my own office with a door, which I close while nursing The Caterpillar. It only seems right to respect the office environment and that then carries over to other places in public as well. But the office is full of mothers and they've seen it all, so the policy I've instituted for when people need to talk to me in the office is If it doesn't bother you, it doesn't bother me. If it does bother them, they either wait until I'm done or talk to me on the intercom.
Just this morning a colleague brought some paperwork in for another person who wasn't there full time when I had The Dormouse at work.
"Sally wasn't sure if she should come in and I caught her just standing outside your door," she explained as she handed me Sally's paperwork.
"You tell Sally if she doesn't mind seeing my boob, I don't mind her looking at it," I joked.
She then walked out of my office and yelled what I said down the hall to Sally.
At home, my policy is Hey, it's MY home. So I offer no such closed door policies and the billibongs come out when they need to regardless of who is in my house. I've sent my elderly neighbor running from the house more than once. Sometimes I feel badly that it makes him so uncomfortable but that's what you get when you overstay your welcome.
So why then does this put me so ill at ease?
Now let me say, I'm pretty liberal about the whole breastfeeding thing. I'm not a particularly modest person and I don't really care who sees my bosom when there's a baby attached to it. It's not like I haven't seen more loblollies watching the Grammy awards in prime time TV. So I don't get the whole whoa, we don't expose our gazongas in this society attitude.
But I'm not all "Hey I'm canceling my Facebook account" either. (Mostly because I am a geezer and do not have a Facebook account, but you get my point.) I get that it makes some people uncomfortable and they don't want to see other people's yabbos and I think that's okay too. Hence, I do try to use a little bit of judgment and not be all flagrantly whipping out the one-eyed monster with no warning.
I guess having The Caterpillar at work with me (and The Dormouse before her) has made me more sensitive to how others may be uncomfortable around La Leche types who unholster the howitzers without a thought. I have my own office with a door, which I close while nursing The Caterpillar. It only seems right to respect the office environment and that then carries over to other places in public as well. But the office is full of mothers and they've seen it all, so the policy I've instituted for when people need to talk to me in the office is If it doesn't bother you, it doesn't bother me. If it does bother them, they either wait until I'm done or talk to me on the intercom.
Just this morning a colleague brought some paperwork in for another person who wasn't there full time when I had The Dormouse at work.
"Sally wasn't sure if she should come in and I caught her just standing outside your door," she explained as she handed me Sally's paperwork.
"You tell Sally if she doesn't mind seeing my boob, I don't mind her looking at it," I joked.
She then walked out of my office and yelled what I said down the hall to Sally.
At home, my policy is Hey, it's MY home. So I offer no such closed door policies and the billibongs come out when they need to regardless of who is in my house. I've sent my elderly neighbor running from the house more than once. Sometimes I feel badly that it makes him so uncomfortable but that's what you get when you overstay your welcome.
So why then does this put me so ill at ease?
"I'm feeding my pretend baby with pretend milk from my pretend breast."
She is, after all only modeling what she's seen me do... right down to the blanket under the baby doll's head. I guess I may not be as progressive as I thought.
By the way, I'm afraid I may have missed a few euphemisms... go here for the whole list.
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November 12, 2007 at 2:55 PM
I thought loblollies was pretty good. I used to call the lone nursing boob, "The one-eyed monster."
November 12, 2007 at 3:56 PM
Guess my hilarious brainwashing of your youngster has paid off. ("What are you doing?" "I'm feeding my baby the way GOOD mommies feed their babies.") I should get a cut of all the money you save buying bottles for that doll.
November 12, 2007 at 3:58 PM
Wait, why does the blanket go under the head again? I must have stopped paying attention at some point in my oh-so-helpful 90 min class.
November 12, 2007 at 4:06 PM
Ah the blanket under the head... it's my own invention to raise her head up a bit. That way she's a bit... let's say gentler... on me.
November 12, 2007 at 7:06 PM
I did wonder if you actually used those words to refer to your boobs...lol
November 12, 2007 at 9:54 PM
Per the Dormouse: Explaining the whole "mommy lactates" thing will naturally lead to a discussion about the birds and the bees perhaps a little sooner than you anticipated? (I.e. Hormones and what those hormones mean and why girls lactate but boys don't and so on...) That might be the unsettling part? I don't know. That's the first thought that entered my mind....
November 13, 2007 at 1:27 PM
You think that's bad, Maya actually lifts her shirt up and sticks her doll's head underneath it.
November 13, 2007 at 2:30 PM
Oh, she actually pulls her shirt up most of the time. She just had a dress on that day and I have yet to capture photographic evidence.
November 13, 2007 at 7:44 PM
Just for the record: The one-eyed monster is something else, and you don't have one (unless you've taken mine...nope, you don't have one).
November 14, 2007 at 4:08 PM
My dear KoH: I'm pretty sure you can apply "one-eyed monster" to either male or female genitalia, depending on the context. But good to know you are still in control of yours.
November 14, 2007 at 6:54 PM
Boobs are genitalia? When did that happen? As for one-eyed anything, I thought it was one-eyed monsters for boobies and one-eyed snake for wee-wees. Have I missed a memo lately?
November 15, 2007 at 8:27 AM
JM: Excellent point. I'll take that up with the KoH at our next family home evening. :)
November 18, 2007 at 8:25 PM
Dormouse is a natural!
I used to be nervous when people started breastfeeding while I was in the room... cause I felt like I was invading on something very private. But my sister breastfeeds her newborn and generally starts feeding the baby right in front of me and whoever else is in the room, so I've gotten used to it... and it actually is really beautiful to see a baby being fed that way! (Although my sister's 10-year-old son nearly had about fifty heart attacks at once the first time he saw her feed the baby!)